Uncomfy & Nervy
The situation: I'm with my two friends and one of their sem 1 classmates talks about (let's just call them L, I don't really know how to spell her name). After beating around the bush and going on about whether they should tell us about what happened to L, he finally tells us. He shows an article on a father abusing and raping his daughter from the very early age of 7. (I'm pretty sure he's lying because the article says the girl is 16 in 2020, which couldn't be true because she is around the same age as us in 2025) Then further on, he comments he laughed at first because "why the fuck would she tell me".
Firstly, this is not his story to tell. He should not have told us L's story, as it is extremely personal. It is even more absolutely disgusting that, in a moment of vulnerability, he finds it weird that L told him. If she is comfortable enough to say it, that means she trusts u. Of course, it is normal to question it in your head, but to phrase it in such a way that she is at fault for telling you the experience she had because you were not comfortable......(this would apply if the article actually applied to her, which I'm not too sure)
Secondly, if this was a lie the whole time, that is even more vile and disgusting. To use a real person's story and traumatic experience and turn it into a prank/lie is absolutely Gross.
Men disappoint me, but I am most disappointed with myself. I was unable to stand up for L and say how I felt because I was so shocked at the article. I am also disappointed in my friends; I am disappointed in the way they dismiss him and the obviously wrong thinking in his views. But I don't blame them.
Ok, it is a few days later, and I am reading this again, and I am cringing at myself for this.... It was not that deep, but definitely after writing this, I felt way better so I'm glad I did this. :) #ThinkingThursday #woah
